Transsexual dating is becoming less and less of a taboo. However, when someone mentions trans dating, people automatically assume that a man is dating a trans woman. Although the number of trans women is larger, we mustn’t forget about trans guys. If you are wondering how dating one looks like, here are some pointers.
They aren’t that feminine
If you think that dating a trans guy is a smart move because he is best of both worlds, you are mistaken. These guys cannot relate to women as much as you think, because they have never been female. They were always guys, just trapped in the wrong body.
They are not all into women
Just because they are trans men doesn’t mean they are into women. Their sexual orientation has nothing to do with their gender. Just as you have straight transsexuals, you also have gay ones.
They don’t all go under knife
Sure, you have trans guys who undergo a surgery, but some just take testosterone treatments and that is it. Also, not all surgeries are the same. Phalloplastyis a procedure where a skin graft is used to create a penis. You also have metoidioplasty where the clitoris first grows into a small penis on testosterone and then it gets surgically enhanced.
Sex isn’t that weird
It is just sex. Some things you like, some things you just don’t. The most important thing is to have good communication in the bedroom. If you feel nervous before your first time with a transsexual, that is perfectly fine.
Don’t hide him in the basement
Not literally, but if you are dating a trans guy you shouldn’t be ashamed of him. If you have been going out for a significant amount of time introduce him to your friends and loved ones. Go out from time to time and have fun. Don’t just spend every night locked in your apartment watching movies. If he senses that you are embarrassed to be seen with him, he will move on. Support his transition and let him know that you care about him and that you are there if he needs you.
They can joke about their transition
Surely, you shouldn’t joke about his changes when you first meet him, but trans guys often like to look on the bright side of life. They aren’t as sensitive as you might think.